Psychoanalytische Praxis

DI Titusz Tarnai, MSc BA pth

PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT AND MENTAL GROWTH
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What is personality development?
What goals does personality development pursue?
Am I ready for development?
How does personality development work?

Personality development is the promotion of growth and resilience and is an integral part of the maturation process, which determines who we are and how we develop over time. It begins in childhood and continues throughout our lives, encompassing a variety of changes, some of which are innate and unchangeable, while others are malleable and dependent on our influence. As we navigate this complex terrain, we shape our identities, refine our characteristics, and sometimes correct the deviations caused by external influences. But how do we ensure successful personality development?

Personality development involves conscious efforts and external influences aimed at improving personal and professional skills, knowledge, and abilities. In the professional context, it involves acquiring new skills, refining existing ones, and fostering a proactive attitude to advance professionally. In the personal realm, self-development encompasses activities aimed at personal growth, self-awareness, and overall well-being. Often, it involves setting goals, seeking feedback, and continuously learning to become a better version of oneself.

While some core personality traits are established in childhood and remain relatively stable in adulthood, others retain their variability even in later years. Attributes such as self-confidence, resilience, openness, and problem-solving skills can continue to evolve and adapt, creating opportunities for growth and self-discovery. The process of personality development can be likened to the work of a sculptor who shapes a block of stone to reveal a figure outlined in his mind. This process entails discomfort for the stone and effort for the sculptor.

To initiate this transformation process, three basic pillars are required – the three pillars of personality development: self-awareness, self-acceptance, and self-change.

Self-awareness.

Self-awareness, akin to taking stock, involves recognizing one's own strengths, weaknesses, and abilities without judgment. It is a time of reflection and conscious perception of one's own personality. Self-awareness is of great importance not only in private but also in professional life. Personality tests can be useful tools for gaining insights into one's strengths and weaknesses.

Self-acceptance.

The phase of self-acceptance aims to accept oneself and one's personality. It is about accepting oneself with all the rough edges and appreciating oneself. Positive self-acceptance forms the basis for healthy personality development and self-realization.

Self-change.

The pillar of self-change represents the actual development phase in personality development. In this phase, willpower and discipline are required. Goals are set and pursued to achieve personal growth. This often requires courage and perseverance to tread new paths and break free from old patterns. You literally leave your comfort zone.

Personality development cannot work miracles. It does not transform us into completely different people. Yet, amidst authenticity, it facilitates a metamorphosis. However, it comes with risks and side effects that should be acknowledged.

You will get to know yourself better – including the dark sides.
You will have to leave cherished comfort zones.
You will have to discover and accept your personal boundaries.
You will have to take more self-responsibility.
You will face rejection.
You will lose friends because they do not develop with you.
You will gain self-worth – and find it harder to deal with people who do not recognize this value.

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